To date, the career I’ve just transitioned out of is my longest-standing relationship.
It ended amicably, with no resentment and no hard feelings, just factors outside our control. While I had so much more to give and didn’t get to see ideas through, I’m deeply grateful for the time we shared.
Like any long relationship, I grew a lot over the ten years I was with them. There were times I was in full flow: creating lasting relationships, adding value to big projects, and improving the ways we worked. And there were positions that weren’t quite the right fit, but where I learned the most. In many ways I grew up during my time there. Looking back, I can clearly see the challenges that shaped me and the mentors who helped me through them. Every role felt like it led naturally to my most recent where I felt I was thriving.
My role as consultant for onboarding was a culmination of everything that came before. It was my dream area of work, and I often couldn’t believe my luck in finding a full-time position around it. I had big dreams about enhancing leaders’ and employees’ experiences in ways that were thoughtful, effective, and sustainable. Reflecting on my roles since I was a 15 year old cashier, one thread remains constant: I feel most fulfilled when I’m helping others do their work better and feel better doing it.
What I’ll miss most is the people. I’ve been incredibly fortunate to work with many thoughtful, smart, and passionate colleagues over the past decade. I’ll miss hearing about the incredible work happening in so many corners of our system, and finding ways I to support them. My most recent team is brilliant, inspiring, and creative. I know they’ll continue to build a valuable program for which I like to think I helped lay the foundation.
Freja to the left: the most grateful of us all for this free time 😉

It’s tempting to compare this experience to a partner waking up and deciding they don’t love you anymore. As I process my new reality, I remind myself that a relationship ending doesn’t mean it wasn’t real or meaningful. I made a positive impact in processes and programs, but most importantly, with the people I supported and collaborated with. My time had value. I’m leaving enriched, matured, and well prepared for whatever comes next.
Yes, I’m grieving the loss of a path I thought I’d be on until retirement. I’m also feeling a gentle nudge to gain new inspiration, to experience a new way of working, and to see how else I can grow, serve, and make a difference. Like any meaningful relationship, this one profoundly shaped me and I carry nothing but love and lessons with me into what’s next.
If this resonates with you, I’d love to chat! Send me a message on LinkedIn or at maianna1986@gmail.com.
Such great insight and steps for departing leaders, you should post this one in more places and share it far…
You gained a lot of experience in your roles at Island Health and it sounds like you’re excited to learn…
Oh my goodness, Maianna! It’s like you took my personal thoughts and put them so perfectly into words on paper!…
Hi, this is my first visit to your blog and I have to say, I am inspired 🙂 Please know…
I love this even for non-leadership roles – this is great 🙂

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